Can’t we just stop talking about the problem with porn?

By Ruth Limkin

Do you ever get tired of reading about the problem with porn? I know I sometimes get tired of writing about it.

There’s a reason I persevere though, and if I ever feel like my participation in the conversation is flagging, I can draw upon a recent memory which shoots adrenaline into my soul. It’s a sad memory. It made me sick to my stomach at the time. So stop reading now if you want to, because sometimes life isn’t pretty.

My website statistics reveal the search terms that people type in which lead them to breadandjustice.com. Just days after I wrote a particularly widely read article, the search results displayed a phrase that someone had googled to get to my site.

“naked eight year old girls”

Maybe it was a search based on the article content I had just written. Maybe.

But the following search terms have also lead people to bread and justice in the last few weeks.

“eight years old sexy picture”

“8 yr old girls naked”

www.babes eight old year sex”

“eight year old girl porn”

There’s a really dark world online. It doesn’t hurt virtual people though – the people in pain are very real.

It hurts real eight year old girls who are exploited to produce such material.

It hurts parents, aching with the pain of their young children being confronted by pornography exposure.

It hurts women who know that what men expect of women and relationships is changing based on violent, abusive pornography.

It hurts men who find themselves returning again and again to material they know degrades human dignity, skews the way they perceive women and damages their ability to participate in meaningful relationships.

It hurts workplaces with 70% of all online porn access occurring in business hours. One report revealed, “Of 61 million unique U.S. visitors logged into pornographic web sites in March of 2006, every fifth visitor was from a office work station.”

It hurts healthy sexuality, with men addicted to porn losing libido, and sexual relationships being pressured by false and abusive relational interactions presented as normal or desired.

This dark world hurts every one of us, but while darkness is powerful indeed, light is infinitely more powerful.

By continuing to shine some light on the industry, the issue, and the pathways out, we can help extricate victims, and help users find a way out. We can reveal that ‘online normal’ is not real normal, and that those who have been hurt by porn can find health.

Maybe one day we can stop talking about the problem with porn and what a great day that will be! Until then I’ll keep talking. And writing. And praying. And loving. And remembering that eight year old girls need someone to advocate for them.

Can I invite you to do the same?

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ruth@ruthlimkin.com

One thought on “Can’t we just stop talking about the problem with porn?

  1. Ruth, a great article on an ugly topic. Keep writing and I will keep sharing your posts! Dealing with the issues of porn and pedophilia, sex tourism and child prostitution is something we just have to engage with for the sake of those who are being abused (as well as pointing out that abusers also need two things – punishment and rehabilitation – if they are ever to be able to be decent people in our society once more).

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